Friday, July 25, 2014

Wedding Planning Post #1: Searching for a Venue


What a weekend! After the 4th of July, S and I spent three days visiting almost every single venue in which you could possibly host a wedding in Asheville.  Mostly for my own recollection, here is a quick recap of what we saw and what I thought of it:

1. Country Club of Asheville: I knew I would love this venue, because I grew up right across from the street from it.  I’ve spent countless hours at the pool, tennis, and restaurants here.  More importantly, I have watched countless sunsets from the balcony of the club.  This has a fantastic view of the mountains to the east and when the sun sets, it is just magical.  The club is a top contender for the wedding,

2. Century Room: the CR is above Pack’s Tavern, a popular downtown restaurant.  It is a large loft with a rustic feel, but still central to everything happening on the streets of Asheville.  To me and S, this venue just lacked the “wow” factor – ¾ of the view from the windows was obscured by trees and the other fourth was just downtown, no mountains, no real magic.  It was nice but probably not what we want.  It may remain on the list for price reasons, however.

3. The Venue: a cool upstairs/downstairs space with patios on both levels (each level would only host one wedding), which was nice.  This view was a little better, while the location remained central.  However, two things stood out to us: first, the bathrooms were minimal – only one per gender! No one wants to stand in line for the bathroom when a party is ongoing!  Second, the price seemed to break things down instead of including what we wanted in the initial price.  It may have not become a problem, but I felt like I might experience some hidden costs here.

4. Capital Club: an awesome new venue – it is right behind the church and on the 17th floor of the building with a great patio.  You can see the downtown and views from all around.  It might be a little small for our group but is still in contention.  It is a great space with lots of control for people who like planning the details

5. Avenue M: we dropped by this restaurant as a potential rehearsal dinner spot.  It has a nice neighborhood feel and the private room would be great if we have a slightly smaller room.  They had a projection screen that would have been able to show a slide show or something during the dinner, and I love the food there.  The owner said the kitchen could handle a number of various allergy/food preferences which is obviously needed.  It’s on the list!

6. Grove Park Inn: we did not get an official tour here but really we just grabbed a drink on the terrace here.  The ballroom is nothing to speak of and it is expensive as all get out.  But the views are preeeeeeetttttttyyyyyy

7. Tressa’s: we looked at the top floor at Tressa’s for a potential rehearsal dinner spot.  The downstairs is an awesome jazz venue but the upstairs was a little disappointing in comparison.  I think it would have been too small anyway, although it would have been an easy after party, but ultimately just not our style.

8. Taylor Ranch: we did not have an appointment here, we just drove up and looked at the place.  It was a great rustic feel, on a large property, but with nice bathrooms and other facilities.  The structure was three-fourths walls and one-fourth open, but with plastic that would roll-down to cover the opening in case of bad weather.  It would hold a lot of people and a band, easily, and looked out on a lake.  Great option.

9. Hickory Nut Gap Farm: I used to go to horse and art camp here, and the family that owns it knows my family as well.  It was a great space - the ceremony place was enclosed by the stones and trees around it, and the reception area was nice a big.  The history of the venue was great as well.  The problem for us was that the only bathrooms were port-a-potties and that was not ideal for us.

10. North Carolina Arboretum: this was another self-guided tour  -- it was hard to visualize exactly how things would be set up here and both S and my allergies were flaring up there, so we nixed that idea.

11. On Broadway: this venue’s location is pretty self-evident, right on Broadway street in the heart of downtown.  It has a big, open floor plan and is owned by Celine and Company, a catering company.  Big shocker: my mom knows Celine.  It is a very pretty space and an awesome location, so it is on the short list.

12. Orange Peel: the peel (I just made that up as a nickname) is a concert venue downtown.  I have been to a number of concerts there and it is a really cool space.  My childhood dreams of being a rockstar were definitely piqued in this space.  Definitely on the short list.

13.  Altamount: another concert venue, this one is named for Thomas Wolfe’s pseudonym for Asheville.  This is literally right across the street from the church so it would be extremely convenient.  It was a bit too small for us though, and the bathroom was on the lowest level, past the bar, which might have been a glitch.

14. Homewood: located in historic Montford, Homewood is an old castle-looking building.  Montford is the neighborhood where James Taylor did rehab and wrote ‘Fire and Rain’ and where Zelda Fitzgerald died in a mental hospital fire.  The ceremony location was gorgeous – visitors would walk down a spiral stone path to a secluded, peaceful area and the bride and groom would be standing up a little elevated area.  There were two problems: the first owner was a dookie and modeled Homewood after that gothic architecture; also it was too small, which is really the problem.

15. Biltmore: what can you really say about Biltmore? It’s historic, it’s beautiful, there are so many venues that are available.  However, the price is out of our budget, particularly if we used it for the reception.

16. The Farm: this is a gorgeous, rustic location with some great cabins on the site in which the wedding party could stay.  It had a lot of décor that could be included in a package deal, even some awesome archways under which we could get married.  So pretty, but a bit too pricey for a rustic locale. 

Other things we did that trip: two cake tastings (Short Street Cakes and Blue Ridge Bear – both great, and some fun flavors) and ate dinner at Posana, an all gluten-free restaurant downtown.  The trip was super packed, but also very productive and fun.  I am so excited to plan this wedding!

Sunday, July 20, 2014

Virginia Wine Tasting

Let's go back in time to March for a moment.  Winter had FINALLY ended, although it was not quite warm in Philly.  What a perfect time for a trip back to Charlottesville! My birthday lined with up the libel show (our law school's annual comedy show, of which both S and I were a part) so I thought it would be a good time to get together with law school friends.  It was also the birthday of another dear friend of mine, so we merged the events together.  We rented a van and headed to three different wineries: Montfair, Stinson, and White Hall.

Montfair had the best atmosphere of all of the places.  The vineyard itself only makes red wine, but it also had cider from a nearby cidery (not technically a word).  The wine tasting room there was great, with big wine barrels and christmas lights, plus they had a band at the time.

White Hall was very nearly a terrible venue, since the people there did not want to accommodate us at first, despite us having called ahead. They eventually got their act together and put us in an upstairs room.  The woman who served us there was very sweet and we had a great time, despite the original confusion.  I also enjoy some of the White Hall white wines, including the bottle that S and I had on our first date.

Downstairs at White Hall
Upstairs
Upstairs
Stinson was the last venue, and has a different feel than the rest.  Their equipment looks more modern so loses a little of that old-world vibe that some of the others have.  Stinson has a great view, however, despite the fact that the day was grey and gloomy. 
The view from Stinson
  We ate dinner at Fox and Hound but that was a bit rushed, due to the libel show's imminent start, but all in all a fantastic Charlottesville day!



Birthday girls at F&H







Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Engaged!

Today I have the most exciting story of this blog so far -- how I got engaged!

As some background, I have to mention the "perfect day".  Three years ago, S and I were in Philly since he was a summer associate there at the time.  It was the weekend before the 4th of July weekend, and I was about to go to the beach for my extended family's yearly vacation.  We toured around old city all day, and everything was remarkably perfect.  The weather was great, we found all of these cool, historic places and just enjoyed being together.  We found Elfreth's Alley then -- it is the oldest continuously-inhabited street in the U.S. and retains a colonial look and feel.  We also ate at City Tavern that night (outside in the perfect weather) which is where the founding fathers decided to declare independence.  The perfect day ended with some early fireworks, topping off a day so ridiculously perfect, it inspired laughter.  S had joked throughout the day that he felt he should propose, since the day was set up so nicely for us.

Fast forward three years: I had lunch plans with two friends on Saturday, June 21st. S seemed nervous all day, but I attributed that his brother being in town -- he had told me that his brother, his brother's boss, and maybe his brother's client(s) would meet us later that day, but he did not yet know the plan.  So S asked me many times during the day what my plan was, and I kept telling him that I had lunch then was waiting on his plan.  I even remarked to my friend that it was frustrating waiting for him waiting on someone else! My friends and I went to lunch in a "fringe" neighborhood in Philly.  I thought it was strange that the one friend who planned it suggested the far location, but she said our other friend (in town from D.C.) would like that neighborhood so I stopped thinking about that then.  After lunch, my friend commented that her nails had already chipped since her manicure the previous week so she wanted to stop by a place nearby and get them redone.  This also should have been a red flag in my mind, since their excuse to get us back into town was that they had a spa day set up at 3.  I suggested in the cab back that we were running late and they should call the spa and let them know!  Little did I know, both friends were in on the plan and all of these little oddities were part of the overall plan. (I also luckily did not look at her nails, which were still perfect from her last manicure).

I got back to S's after lunch and he said we should leave "soonish" to meet his brother.  He said his brother was being vague about the details but it felt like it was kind of a big deal.  He said we would meet them all at Cuba Libre, in old city.  In the uber, he mentioned that we do not go to old city much, "wasn't the last time for the perfect day?"  This stood out to me because it was not at all true.  We had been on a tour of old city with his parents just a few months earlier.  Despite all of the little clues earlier, this was my first hint that something big was happening.  We got to cuba libre and S checked his phone (way too fast to actually read any texts, this was my second clue) and said his brother was going to be an HOUR late.  "We should go to Elfreth's or something, that way we have a story instead of wasting our whole day," he said.  This is when I really started to wonder what was going on, but I did not want to get my hopes up too much.  We strolled down the alley, in perfect weather again (even though rain was predicted most of the day).  There were a bunch of tourists on the street, as well as someone who looked like a professional photographer (my fourth hint).  S commented that it was really cool that this street still existed, that it was a tranquil place in the city, just like I was a tranquil place in his life.  At this point, we had stopped in the alley.  Even with all the hints, what happened next was a little surreal to me.  S said that he wanted to be with me forever (or something to that effect), and dropped down to one knee.  After this, I have absolutely no recollection of what was said.  I remember a ring and I am pretty sure I said yes! It was funny how I had suspicions but still could not really pull myself together to remember all of the details!

After the actual proposal, we went into a courtyard, through a museum that was set up in a house owned by two women entrepreneurs.  There was champagne set up with two glasses that fit together in a heart and a Carolina champagne bucket.  S and I called our parents and I commented that they must be at a tennis tournament, since it sounded like they were surrounded by people.  My mom at this point proved herself to be a terrible liar, but luckily did not ruin the later surprise.  I knew that S had asked her in advance, but when I said I was engaged, she said "engaged? to be married?!" What other kind of engaged would I call my mother to tell her?!

S and I drank champagne in the courtyard for a little bit, and recovered from the shock a little.  I asked him who all knew, and he flat out lied to me by playing down who all knew and did not know.  This lie was exposed a few minutes later, when my parents and little sister, his parents, and a few of our friends from Philly, D.C., and New York came out of the other house attached to the courtyard! I was truly stunned by this development, and started crying (I had only teared up before, and laughed at the surreal nature of it all).  S had set up snacks in the other house and we all toasted to our future.  S's dad had written a sweet toast, incorporating the history of the alley in with our own story.  His mom and my dad also gave great toasts.  We then all ate dinner at City Tavern, and finished up the night at Bards, one of our favorite Philly bars.

This day was truly perfect and I thank everyone involved.  I am so looking forward to planning a wedding, but more importantly, spending my life with such a sweet man who took the time and effort to plan an amazing proposal. 

Thursday, July 3, 2014

Engaged -- a picture post

I will soon share the story of my engagement, but while I edit that post, enjoy some pictures as a teaser :)